Tammy Nelson


11:00AM – 1:00PM PT
Understand the Motivation and Practical Interventions for Moving Forward

201 - Therapy with the One Who Cheats

Please note: this in-person workshop has reached capacity. It will be available virtually.

Many therapists dedicate much therapy time to helping betrayed partners heal deep emotional wounds in the wake of an affair. Therapy is often lopsided in a victim–perpetrator model, dealing with the injury of the betrayal. Less attention is typically paid to helping the partners who had the affair, one-night stand, or online infidelity, especially regarding why and how it happened.  

This workshop will give you a more nuanced understanding of the motivations for infidelity and present practical interventions around the underlying meaning of cheating and what it means about the relationship.   

Learning Objectives: 

  1. Describe three motivations for infidelity and how these relate to motivation and defense mechanisms in the betraying partner 
  2. Define the integration model of treatment to create positive treatment outcomes for both the couple and the individual  
  3. Assess for triangulations and avoid a “trauma triangle” in the treatment as an inadvertent reenactment of the affair 

Founder of the Integrative Sex Therapy Institute. Author, Getting the Sex You Want and Open Monogamy

Tammy Nelson, Ph.D., is a licensed psychotherapist in private practice, a relationship expert and international speaker, an author, a faculty member, and a teacher with a Doctorate in Philosophy in Clinical Sexology. She is a Board Certified Sexologist, a Diplomate of the American Board of Sexologists, a Licensed Professional Counselor, an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist, a Registered Art Therapist, a Licensed Alcohol and Drug Counselor, a Certified Imago Relationship therapist, and an Advanced Imago Clinician.

Dr. Tammy is the author of several books including Open Monogamy: A Guide to Co-Creating Your Ideal Relationship Agreement (2021), Integrative Sex & Couples Therapy: A Therapist's Guide to New and Innovative Approaches (2020), The New Monogamy: Redefining Your Relationship After Infidelity (2013), Getting the Sex You Want: Shed Your Inhibitions and Reach New Heights of Passion Together (2008), and What's Eating You?: A Workbook for Anorexia and Bulimia (2004). She is also a TEDx speaker, host of the podcast The Trouble with Sex, and Director of the Integrative Sex Therapy Institute.

Speaker Disclosures:

Financial: Dr. Tammy Nelson maintains a private practice and receives royalties as a published author. She is the executive director at Integrated Sex Therapy Training Institute and has employment relationships with Daybreak University and the California Institute of Integral Studies. Dr. Nelson receives compensation as a presenter and consultant. She receives a speaking honorarium, recording, and book royalties from Psychotherapy Networker and PESI, Inc. She has no relevant financial relationships with ineligible organizations.

Non-financial: Dr. Tammy Nelson serves on the dissertation committee for the American Academy of Clinical Sexology and the International Institute of Clinical Sexology. She is a member of the American Association of Sex Educators, Sex Counselors, and Sex Therapists, the Imago Relationships International Association of Professional and Certified Therapists, the International Board of Sexologists, and other organizations. For a complete list, please contact info@pesi.com.